How to word a wedding RSVP
By the MakeTheRSVP team · Updated June 2026
The wording on your RSVP sets the tone and tells guests exactly what you need back. Here is how to ask clearly, with examples you can copy for cards or an online RSVP page.
Start with a clear request
Guests should know in one line what you are asking and by when. Lead with the action, then the date.
A simple, warm line works better than formal filler.
- Kindly reply by August 1.
- Please let us know if you can join us by August 1.
- We hope you can make it. RSVP by August 1.
Ask for meal choices and dietary needs
If you are serving a plated meal, collect the entree choice and any dietary notes in the same step, so your caterer gets one clean count.
- Please select your entree: chicken, fish, or vegetarian.
- Let us know of any dietary needs or allergies.
Handle plus-ones and the deadline
Say clearly whether a guest can bring someone, and set a firm deadline. An online RSVP can enforce the limit and close on its own.
On a printed card, name the people invited to avoid confusion.
- We have reserved 2 seats in your honor.
- Adults-only celebration.
- Responses close August 1.
Point guests to your online RSVP
If you are collecting replies online, the wording just needs to send guests to the link or QR code. Keep it to one clear line so nobody hunts for how to respond.
- RSVP at [link].
- Reply online by [date] at [link].
- Scan the code to RSVP.
Three wedding RSVP examples to copy
Match the wording to the tone of your invitation. Here are the same request in three registers, from traditional to modern.
- Formal: The favour of a reply is requested by [date].
- Warm: We can't wait to celebrate with you. Kindly reply by [date].
- Modern: Save us a seat? RSVP by [date] at [link].
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FAQ
When should the wedding RSVP deadline be?+
Most couples set the RSVP deadline three to four weeks before the wedding, which gives time for final numbers and seating.
How do you ask for meal choices on an RSVP?+
List the entree options and add a short line for dietary needs. An online RSVP can show the options as buttons so guests pick in a tap.
What does 'RSVP by' mean on an invitation?+
It is the date you need a reply by. Guests should respond yes or no before that date so you can finalize the count.
Should the RSVP wording match the invitation's tone?+
Yes. Formal invitations pair with formal wording like 'the favour of a reply is requested,' while a casual party suits 'let us know by [date].' Matching the tone keeps the invitation feeling intentional.
Do you put the RSVP deadline on the invitation or the reply card?+
Either works. On a printed suite the deadline usually sits on the reply card; for a digital or QR RSVP, put it right next to the link so guests see it when they go to respond.